Finding My Sexy After Having Kids


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Parenting changes so many aspects of our lives, including how we feel about our own bodies. Here’s how I found my sexy again (with a little extra help).

Prior to having children, it was pretty easy to feel sexy. All my body parts were where they were supposed to be. I was able to get dressed up and go out every weekend. I could wear low-cut tops, tight jeans, short skirts, and whatever I wanted to wear without worrying about being a role model to my children. This picture is from Halloween 2008, a night of fun and debauchery! I mean, seriously… I looked hot!

Halloween 2008

And then you have kids… and your body just isn’t the same. I don’t care how little weight you gain, how great your diet is, how often you work out. Your body is just different. Your skin is looser, you may have stretch marks, things are saggier. And more than that, it takes time to emotionally adjust to this new body. I was always about a size 6, and after giving birth to my daughter, I was a size 12. I had to shop for new clothing, learn what styles flattered my figure, and accept my new body. pull-up at gym

But you know what? Regardless of all that, I feel pretty darn good in my skin! And it’s not because of my size … It’s because I’ve learned to be confident. I spent most of my life battling some serious self-esteem issues. I had to teach myself how to love being me!

Bandelette legs

What I love about my body is that I am thin, but I still have curves. I was blessed with a tiny waist, but much larger hips and thighs. And I think that’s pretty awesome! Cellulite and all! (Notice I did not edit out the obvious thigh cellulite.)

dress from behind

My family jokes that they are “Jewish thighs” as my mom and sister have them, too. Regardless of what size I am, size 2 or size 12, my thighs never gap. They always rub together.

walk bootsAnd when my thighs rub, especially while I was pregnant and wearing sundresses daily to not sweat endlessly, they chafe. The solution? Bandelettes®! Bandelettes® are lace thigh bands, designed to provide comfort while being fashionable and sexy. The non-slip silicone inside holds bands in place without moving and slipping. Bandelettes® are available in 6 different sizes, whether you are a size 2 or a size 20. To find the appropriate-sized Bandelettes®, measure the upper, wider portion of your thighs while in a standing position. They are available in a variety of patterns and colors, so you can pick your favorite styles.

side legs

Being a parent and working full-time can take a lot out of me, but finding my sexy makes me a better partner to my husband and a better woman to myself. Here are a few pointers for finding your sexy:

  • Don’t shy away from the camera. Take fun pictures of yourself and allow your partner to photograph you, too. (Thanks for taking these pictures, Richard!)
  • Find a few items of clothing that you can wear confidently. You may want to wear them daily or save them for special date nights. Do what makes you feel good!
  • Take care of your body through a healthy diet and exercise. Maintain a size that makes you feel confident.
  • Talk openly about any issues you may have regarding your body with your partner or any members of your support system. They are there to listen because they love you.
  • Find new reasons each day to love yourself physically and emotionally.

How do you find your sexy?

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This is a sponsored post written by me on behalf of Bandelettes®.

About Carrie Wells, Ed.D.

Dr. Carrie Wells is a college instructor, blogger, wife, and work-at-home mother to two children, Lydia (age 7) and Bryce (age 5). Carrie earned her doctorate in Special Education in 2008. After becoming a mother in 2009, Carrie began blogging as Huppie Mama to share her passions for cooking, crafting, beautifying, and her family. In 2016, she rebranded as Our Potluck Family, and her husband Richard became a regular contributor.
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22 Responses to Finding My Sexy After Having Kids

  1. tammi says:

    In any way I can! I have 3 kids, including twins, it’s hard to do. Thighs, tummy, oh yes – they left their mark!

  2. Damn girl! Work it! I have a fairly new babe at home, but I know that in a few months, she won’t be nursing as much and I will find myself more attractive. Until then, I just keep running and nursing!

  3. Awesome product because I sure the heck need it! I love the confidence this post exudes which is refreshing!

  4. mommye says:

    There are days when I need to feel that sexy feeling again. After having kids your body does change. Luckily my husband is always in good spirits with giving me compliments when needed.

  5. I love this idea because I am definitely guilty of the thigh rubbing problem. Do these come in plus sizes?

  6. shaunatorres says:

    Ha, ha, ha… I must have Jewish thighs too because mine always rub too. These are so cool and so much sexier than wearing shorts under my dress. HA!

  7. Daisy says:

    It’s rough after having a baby. I definitely need to find my sexy!

  8. Bandelettes look like a sexy way to prevent your thighs from chafing. They really look sexy. It can be hard to feel sexy again after a baby.

  9. Pam says:

    Bandlettes would be so perfect to have in the summer. Thigh chafing is the worst.

  10. Danielle I says:

    I need to get some of these. I love wearing dresses, but can’t wear them as often as I’d like because my thighs rub together and chafe…ouch.

  11. Kathy says:

    You look amazing! I love your boots! Those Bandlettes would be great to have. Chafing is the worst!

  12. This is a great product! Feeling attractive again after having a baby is hard work.

  13. Danielle H says:

    Thigh gap is for the birds, haha. Mine rub too and I admit sometimes it can be uncomfortable. I’m gonna have to check these out!

  14. meagan says:

    Totally get it – it can be so hard to feel good about yourself especially after having kids. I find that when I take care of my body and exercise I feel sexiest.

  15. You’re so pretty for doing this type of a post! Way to look sexy mama!

  16. wow these are amazing. After have 5 kids my thighs are a hot mess, these sound like a great solution! I hate my thighs rubbing together!

  17. PK says:

    Nothing wrong with getting your sexy back and keeping it after having kids. Kudos to you

  18. Good for you on finding your sexy. Love the lace thigh protectors, very sexy and idea for those of us with blessed hips.

  19. Wow! Great pics! I am having trouble just showering nowadays LOL let alone being sexy.

  20. Jenna Wood says:

    I need to order a pair- or three- this is my biggest gripe when dressing up, and these are very sexy! It’s nice to not have to feel frumpy when dealing with a less than fun inconvenience!

  21. Vanessa says:

    Bandelettes are great! I wear them as well and they definitely do the job. They are very sexy and the best solution in my opinion on preventing chafing. If you don’t have a pair you should definitely grab some.

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